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Why Christians can’t be mad at homosexuals for wanting to get married.

March 23, 2013


The debate on marriage has become a very popular and spirited one. Say you don’t believe in same-sex marriage and you are labeled a homophobic. Say you believe everyone deserves happiness and you are labeled anti-Christ. Some believe it should be between a man and a woman while others believe it should also be between same sex couples. The argument should’ve never gotten this far because the problem started prior. The real issue is government should’ve never been allowed to perform marriages in the first place. Marriages came from a religious directive, not a governmental one. The only reason we find ourselves arguing is because government got involved. And when government got involved, the parameters of marriage were all of a sudden changed and re-written at a whim without prayer, meditation or biblical guidance. If we think about it, church and state are also in conflict over divorce. Church recognizes a justifiable divorce for only two reasons: death and adultery. State recognizes many more. The issue lies where we have two different entities sanctioning marriages, meanwhile it should’ve always only been one. So what are we arguing for? The church folks are being distracted when what they should really be arguing about and fighting against is government involvement; and government knows this. This is why church folks are becoming frustrated. Christians want our cake and to eat it too. (I’ll get into that part later.) Nonetheless, the minute government grabbed a hold to marriage and sent the message that it could dictate when and where it took place, and eventually to whom, it justifiably became a civil liberty and less of a religious institution in the eyes of homosexuals.

Since the U.S. Government sends the message that it is the end-all be-all of the globe, and that it has infinite power, then it only makes logical sense that homosexuals go would to it for their rights and demand it change some things about marriage. Christians are late! But the problem is we, like typical humans, want comfort. Now, here is where we want our cake and eat it too. Christians should’ve been vocal when government decided to conduct marriages and protested against it. Bible-toters should’ve seen the writing on the wall when benefits (tax breaks, lower insurance premiums, health benefits, joint property, decision-making capabilities, etc.) were given to those married. We love it when the government is handing our free cheese, but hate it when it tells us what cheese we can eat. It was only sprinkling honey on the future “poison” it would soon ask Christians to eat. Christians, for many years, enjoyed those benefits so do they have a right to confront this modification of marriage that is coming from the government? Should we even recognize marriages that weren’t conducted by a religious leader with a bible and altar? So what we are finding is two types of married folks in society: church married and state married. Church married folks must go to the state (government) to get a license. State married folks don’t need anything from the church. They don’t need a membership card, tithing history and they don’t even have to prove they believe in God. On the surface, the government makes it seem as if it is working with the church, but it is not. It is actually mandating the church. If same-sex marriage becomes a federal law, based on the historical trajectory of the government, I can see them removing the tax-exempt status from churches that refuse to perform same-sex nuptials. What we have today and we have evolved into from the inception of the Bible to now, is the tail wagging the dog. Church once controlled marriages, now, because of Passive want-my-bread-buttered-on-both-sides Christians and economic benefits accepted by the government, government now does the controlling.

We have to cut beneath the real issue here and somewhat blame ourselves for letting things runaway. If we are at fault, then we should simply not be hypocrites. If we view marriage by government as marriage, then do we really have a strong leg to stand on with this modification? I am not even posing an argument for or against gay marriage. I am simply doing the “I told you so” to passive Christians. We have to watch the dog that brings us the bone. If we are okay getting benefits from government for being married, then we shouldn’t get angry when it decides to pass out benefits to others. We lost the battle when we accepted the confirmation of marriage as receiving a license from the government as opposed to when we make the covenant at the altar to God.

Devin Robinson is a business & economics professor and author of 8 books. Learn more about him at

8 Comments leave one →
  1. Successman Rees permalink
    March 24, 2013 1:19 pm

    Professor, I read your blog and you make some very good pro and con points on the subject of same sex marriages. I am more homophobic than not so my views certainly will be perceived as warped, nonetheless, I really wonder if government had not gotten involved in the debate, would the church had come to meander its current view to the point of how masturbated this debate gets when government versus church sit at the round-table? When visiting an Ethiopian Orthodox Church in Ādīs Ābeba last year, this topic came up and I loved the Minister’s view: He stated that from the scriptures; there would come a minority race who would bastardly interject a proposal which would confuse, denounce and propel a view so far fetched right wing, that even many ecumenical people of the same sex would be found cohabiting publicly together and in the politically correct community may even marry. (He echoed from his known knowledge that it certainly was not new News that in the Catholic Church where this unacceptable (homosexual) behavior is frowned upon, is also widely practiced; yet the most populous Protestant group on earth. So he offered: Let’s review the Ancient Maat and see if any of these ecumenical leaders would acquiesce? Verses 1, & 13 of Ancient Maat read: 1. I have not done iniquity; 13. I have not dealt deceitfully. Imagine us being guided for over 10,000 Julian calendar years with such ecumenical guidance until those Romans introduced their version of Christianity.)

  2. Phillip Chan Bridges permalink
    March 24, 2013 1:20 pm

    DEVIN ROBINSON, SHAME ON YOU…..for being so insightful…lol…I bet they never expected this…I am rotfl…this whole hypocritical “butter on both sides of the bread” was a skillful way to present the argument…kudos ha haaaa. I’m lovin this.

  3. Latoya Rochester Lockett permalink
    March 24, 2013 1:21 pm

    That’s a different perspective I’ve never thought about but it’s true. Thanks for sharing

  4. Kal Ri permalink
    March 24, 2013 1:22 pm

    Lawd, you gone and upset these good Christian folks so early this Sunday morning.

    I’ve always said, that homosexuals choosing to get married has nothing to do with Christians. It’s between them and the government.

    Your commentary is on point. I had never truly considered that marriage had nothing to do with the government.

    With you on this one. Government has to work for everyone and adjusts rules accordingly. This argument therefore has been fought before, just in a different package.

    • Allam Vijaya Bhasker Reddy permalink
      March 26, 2013 2:17 am

      it true….

  5. Symphony Cassendines permalink
    March 25, 2013 11:34 am

    I hear you. But I still must say, the word of God stand pure and sure. Government or the Church, will all have to answer to the Lord Almighty on that glorious day. Great insight for us all, for where the Church failed. But sin, God will judge.

  6. VIKizz permalink
    March 25, 2013 12:03 pm

    I like your perspective on this. However, my view on it is this: People can argue until the end, if they want, but if you believe in God, whether you are a christian or not, you know with all the common sense God gave you, that same sex marriage is wrong in the sight of God. And when He returns that will be proven. The government involvement excuse will not fly on that glorious day when he returns. Government should work for everyone, also with the common sense God gave them. I treat everyone with the same respect, no matter their sexual orientation, but I do not agree with same-sex marriage or homosexuality. Besides my belief in the bible, the biology tells me what I need to know.

  7. Gilliam permalink
    July 28, 2013 10:50 am

    Your commentary is on point as others have said. I believe people should do whatever they choose from a personal standpoint. Yet, I don’t believe in same sex marriage. It’s not a christian thing as much as a scientific thing for me. I won’t get in to that.

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